The blessing of a wife
There is so much warfare that comes against the freedom to release blessing as a wife because of the blessing that comes out of it. It is the authority we have been given as wives to see the Kingdom come in our marriages. Jesus wants to give us grace for this.
We receive blessing when we release blessing over our husbands.
I want to share a specific testimony from last night that was actually a huge victory for me personally, and something that has taken years to walk out… I experienced the fruit of releasing blessing over my husband instead of releasing the curse of “not being enough” and what I got was much more than I ever expected…
A big challenge in my marriage over the past years has been expectation… feeling that my husband should be doing more.
When that filter is there we can never receive how much they actually are doing, and even if they aren’t, God is still faithfully working which is ideally the only filter we get to live by (2 Corinthians 5:16).
Nonetheless, one of the biggest triggers that I have walked out has been with expectation, and in this case, when I look over and see my husband comfortably reading when there is dinner to be made, dishes to put away, trash, mail, house cleaning, meal prepping etc etc etc … Most recently he began a 15-book series and these books, I am not kidding, are at least 2” thick… I would be so incredibly bothered to look over at my husband reading when he should be helping “take care of things”…
A few days ago he got His next book of the series in the mail that he had been anxiously waiting to begin reading and I felt the Holy Spirit say bless it… I honestly kind of dismissed it thinking ‘maybe that was a little overcompensatory’ and potentially unnecessary, but again I felt the Holy Spirit lead me to bless his time reading before he began this next book. And so I did… and what God began showing me was absolutely beautiful…
I began seeing my husband’s spiritual office - a study room that my husband was reading and studying from with the Lord, the place where God wants to meet Him and speak to him and grow with him… and I knew that I was blessing and in a sense releasing my husband into this spiritual office... but what I also realized was that I was free to step into mine.
I instantly felt the Holy Spirit show me that this was shutting doors to the guilt I had been recently feeling when I was spending time with God alone or working on things even thought they were things that I felt God had put on my heart..
I began praying out the opposite of what accusation has spoken over my husband time and time again, releasing identity and bringing my own perspective into the depths of knowing him according to the Spirit… identifying and speaking out strengths that are otherwise clouded with what he should be doing… realizing it’s the expectations I hold of my self, never feeling like its enough because I am not enough…
What we don’t realize is when we are cursing our husbands, which is actually keeping ourselves from entering into the promise because we are one. But when we are partnering with the Holy Spirit is doing in their life, we are actually also receiving access to what He is doing as well. In this moment, He also freed me to step into heaven with my husband. (This is the Kingdom principle of wealth which is generosity, receiving by giving).
There is such a radical, and impactful advancement of the Kingdom in our heart as One when we release blessing as wives…. proving wrong every feeling and lie that we won’t get the help we need, or we are being held back, etc etc ….
I just want to say that this wasn’t something that happened over night… this has been years of God painfully fighting through and exposing expectation in my own life through my husband and wrestling with accusations of not having enough help or not feeling appreciated based on my husband’s actions but really internally
One last little detail - to confirm the above.. tonight we were looking for parking and I said “good luck”, first of all why did I use ‘luck’ and also who was I speaking to as if we weren’t both in the same car? Anyway, in passing it just came out, but I instantly felt this conviction … like I was cursing my husband and I instantly responded, ‘God I repent and bless my husband’ (in turn blessing us) and almost instantly a parking spot opened in one of the busiest parking lots and in front row…
I just want to pray this over you this morning…
Father I thank you for your beloved daughter, that there is grace for her, that she is an incredible wife, that you have given incredibly authority to release blessing, empowering her to partner with heaven to see the Kingdom come in her marriage and we thank you for the mountains you are moving through our simple faith, that we don’t have to be perfect or have it together you bring our hearts into alignment with yours. I thank you that she is enough, accepted and perfected in your Love.
Hearing from God Exercise
Let the Holy Spirit highlight an area in your husband’s life that He is inviting you to bless, maybe an area that has been particularly challenging for you. Ask Him, He will show you.
Go with one of the first thoughts that comes to mind... it’s usually Him.
What has been holding you back from carrying approval for your husband in this area?
Can you trust Jesus with it so He can move you into His love where we are struggling to carry it?
How does He want to lead you in blessing your husband in this area?
As you begin blessing Him or allowing Him to move your heart into blessing, what is shifting? How is your perspective of your husband changing?
Resources + Scripture
We reflect the glory of our husband’s so as we are partnering with Heaven for our husband, we actually reflect what we are beholding about them…. How beautiful …
“The woman, on the other hand, reflects the glory of her husband, for man was not created from woman but woman from man. By the same token, the man was not created because the woman needed him; the woman was created because the man needed her.” 1 Corinthians 11:7-9